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Ruth K. Huttner, MA, LPC
1405 N. Dobson Rd.
Suite 1
Chandler, AZ 85224-5604
Phone: (480) 899-5800
Toll Free: (877) 805-5800
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Falling
in love is easy. Staying
in love is harder.
 Imago
Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a comprehensive theory that
explains why we are having relationship problems and gives
practical tools for restoring connection and resolving these
issues. It also gives insight into ourselves as individuals.
IRT is positive,
forward-looking, hopeful. It
reminds us that relationships go through predictable stages and
teaches us to navigate the rapids of the uncomfortable ones.
It is often useful to have an Imago “coach” to help
you through choppy relationship waters.
There are no “bad guys”
here, just people trying to do the best they can with the
limited skills they have. Part of the problem is
 that we’ve been operating on
autopilot, using the skills and coping strategies that we’ve
brought into our relationships from childhood and past
relationships, but unfortunately, these behaviors just don’t
work. Another part
of the problem is that we have
unmet needs from the past that we are unconsciously trying to
get met in our
current relationship. Imago Relationship Therapy can help you
move to a
higher level of functioning as a couple.
Couples argue about who is
right or wrong, but basically we are just different.
Using IRT you can begin to make your differences work for
you and not against you.
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“Compatibility comes
about not through sameness but through
respect for our differences.”
-- David Baird
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Learning to
communicate the Imago way actually provides you
with the opportunity to feel more
connected after you’ve had a conflict!
You will become less fearful of having
disagreements because you will know how to
handle them respectfully, consciously, maturely.
What an experience!
In Imago we say:
“Conflict is growth trying to
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What would
it be like if you could replace your arsenal of
weapons with a toolbox of practical techniques
to resolve differences, where both of you could
“win” and defensive behaviors were no longer
necessary because you felt safe with each other
again?
The
workhorse of Imago Relationship Therapy is the
Intentional Dialog, a communication skill that
creates connection, respect and safety.
As Henry David Thoreau said:
“It takes two to speak the truth—one
to speak and another to hear.”
But IRT
doesn’t just focus on resolving problems, it
also puts attention on romance, growth as
individuals and as a couple, and becoming each
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On
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Ruth says:
"I
have successfully used Imago
Relationship Therapy with people
from three other continents
besides North America and with
people from ages 13 to 76.
The fact that this theory
and its processes have such
universal applicability says a
lot in its favor."
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other’s cohealers of past wounds.
There is a reason we selected our
partner, and once we become conscious of that
reason and see the purpose for our being
together, we can let that knowledge guide us to
an extraordinary relationship.
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 Imago
Relationship Therapy is not just for couples in
committed relationships.
It’s for anyone interested in improving all of
their relationships.
Singles who want insight into their difficulties
with significant others find IRT beneficial.
Parents use IRT techniques with their kids. IRT is useful in the workplace with coworkers and
bosses. Friends
can use the intentional dialog with
each other.
Imago Relationship
Therapy was developed by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., and his
wife Helen LaKelly Hunt, MA, MLA.
For more information about Imago, you can read
the best-selling books by Dr. Hendrix:
GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT:
A GUIDE FOR COUPLES, and KEEPING THE LOVE YOU
FIND: A PERSONAL GUIDE.
The GETTING
THE LOVE YOU WANT Workshop for Couples is one of
the most effective ways to experience Imago Relationship
Therapy. Click here
for details!
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“Imagine
it—someone knows you, all of you, your talents and
eccentricities, your generosity and dark moods, what you
look like at your best and at your worst.
Imagine that you’ve opened all of
 yourself to
that person, no masks, no gimmicks, no affectations and
someone says, 'Yes, I see you, all of you, and I love
you for the person you are…..'
That’s what makes love so precious.
That’s what real romance and intimacy are all
about.”
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THE NEW INTIMACY,
Judith Sherven and Jim
Sniechowski
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Not in Arizona? Click here to
find an Imago Therapist near you. |
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